I'm a decentely active stackexchange contributor.

I do not have massive reputation, but I consistently try to ask good questions, provide good answers, and moderate to provide my modest contibution to the overall quality of these communities.

There is one only stackexchange website which is troubling me: ServerFault.

I constantly try to bring server-related questions from SO to SF, and ask my own here: but I think I will stop.

The reason? On SF I often see behaviors against all stackexchange etiquette: most notably, downvotes without any comment. I usually try and do the opposite: comment first, and if really there is no reaction, then downvote.

I have a couple of examples:

 * http://serverfault.com/questions/325606/haproxy-subdomain-redirect/352663

This question (not mine) got 3 downvotes WITHOUT ANY COMMENT. Why?

There was an answer which I do not consider correct. I made a comment on it, *without downvotes*, and posted my own answer, which got **downvoted without any comment**. I provided links and details.

 * I made a question on Solaris development status

I deleted it since, I don't know if somebody with higher rep could recover it: but again, I got it downvoted and closed with only one comment and no time to try and fix it. I'm not saying the questions *had* to be saved - I'm talking about constructive behaviour.

And I know I should find more examples, but I honestly do not have the time right now. I'll try and add when I see one.

## What's my point, and what I'm asking ? ##

I'm definitely not saying that I did not get constructive, useful, friendly contributions on SF. But I'm saying that that is starting to feel almost an exception.

But I will most likely stop bringing questions here from SO, or asking them myself.

My question is: **how can we make this community as welcoming, friendly and constructive as the other StackExchange ones??**


**Related**

this is definitely not the same as http://meta.serverfault.com/questions/285/whats-wrong-with-serverfault, or http://meta.serverfault.com/questions/1453/how-active-is-the-serverfault-community though extremely closely related I think.

This community is really not making it easy to participate...