The person in question isn't soliciting for paid work, they are responding to the OPs statement that they are willing to pay for a resolution. Even if that were not the case I can't see a problem with taking tech support off site.
Something that many people forget is that Server Fault is Q&A not tech support. This OP needs and wants tech support as their underlying problem cannot be resolved on site by Q&A.
Here's how it came about
I answered the headline question It is clear from all the comments though that the OP doesn't want t hear that the kernel is acting correctly , as they have 'lots of free memory'. so I left this comment
and the OP responded
I would happily pay for advice. Do you know any places where I can do so?
So I contacted someone who I'm fairy sure will be able to figure this out and encouraged them to contact the OP.
This won't be straightforward. It won't be solvable by asking the OP questions in the comments. It will require access to the system and time to resolve.
Q&A is not tech support. Tech support is not Q&A.