As an aside, can I make a personal recommendation that you take some time to improve your interpersonal and social skills.
Walking into a room full of people that you have never met and insinuating that they're lacking in knowledge is not a great tactic. Not only does it do nothing to make us want to help you (And remember, any help you get is out of the kindness of someones heart), but it also makes you appear rude, obnoxious and clueless yourself.
For future reference, there are some extremely talented people on ServerFault and, if you'd followed their instructions to start with your question may have been answered already. We know what we're talking about and we know what questions we need to ask to help you out. It's very hard to solve quasi-hypothetical questions without real world information and it also goes against what ServerFault is about.
Additionally, you continually say things like
then I'll find an alternative(well I know all my alternatives if I can't find the answer, or it isn't possible
and
I specifically DON'T put my reasoning in here most of the time because I already KNOW all of the solutions, and am only interested in the one I'm trying to solve. I don't want to spend a bunch of time explaining myself.
Two things jump out:
If you can't be bothered to spend the time explaining, why the heck should be spend any time looking for a solution?
Trust me when I say that you definitely do not know all of your alternatives. One of the beauties of a community like ServerFault is you have access to thousands and thousands of years of combines experience and knowledge. It's worth letting people in to help you, because you never know what novel solution will be suggested.